Hello, dear readers! Today, I’m getting personal and sharing a journey that’s close to my heart – how taking charge of my emotional responses and embracing boundaries breathed new life into my marriage with Arjun.
Once upon a time, I was the queen of emotional outbursts. My reactions, though well-intentioned, were like fireworks – spectacular but not always appropriate. This took a toll on my relationship with Arjun, creating more drama than a season finale of your favourite soap opera.
Two years ago, something clicked. I learned about honouring boundaries – not just Arjun’s, but mine too. It was like finding a new lens to view our marriage. Suddenly, the past scenes of my melodramatic responses played in my head, and I realized it was time for a change.
Self-reflection isn’t easy, especially when it feels like staring into a mirror that shows all your imperfections. But it was necessary. I acknowledged my mistakes and apologized to Arjun – not just with words, but with actions. It was like spring cleaning for the soul.
More than just saying sorry, I began to uphold my boundaries. This wasn’t about building walls but rather painting lines on a shared canvas, showing where I end and where I begin. It left room for personal growth, exploring passions, and even completing my master’s. I started feeling like a protagonist in an inspiring coming-of-age novel.
This newfound understanding of boundaries didn’t just apply to my marriage; it was a universal remote that changed every channel of my life. I stopped tolerating nonsense, understood my worth, and became the confident, bold person I am today – like a superhero discovering her powers, but instead of a cape, I had self-respect.
Fast forward to today, Arjun and I aren’t just husband and wife; we’re best friends and also work alongside each other. Our relationship is like a well-oiled machine, celebrating quirks and differences with fewer breakdowns and more tune-ups. He’s become more expressive, and I’ve upgraded my communication software – it’s not just about talking; it’s about listening, understanding, and engaging in mature conversations.
I used to think communication was about talking non-stop, like a radio host on their first day. But real communication is a two-way street – it’s as much about listening and understanding as it is about talking. And when things heat up, it’s about knowing when to take a breather for clarity, like a well-timed commercial break in a heated debate. This realisation alone transformed the way we communicated.
I’m a work in progress, a daily learner in the school of life. I’m not a perfect partner or parent, but I’m a dedicated student. Each day, I strive to be better than yesterday, embracing my flaws, taking responsibility, and continuously evolving. It’s a journey for which I’m grateful every step of the way.
So, that’s my story – a tale of emotional fireworks, boundary discoveries, and finding harmony in the chaos. If you’ve ever felt like a work in progress, remember you’re not alone. We’re all in this together, learning, growing, and becoming better versions of ourselves. Here’s to our collective journey of self-improvement!
