Before I explain different sexualities, let us understand what sexuality is. Sexuality is who you identify yourself as based upon your interests in romantic and/or sexual attractions and your preferences for romantic and/or sexual relationships.  

Sexual orientation is similar to sexuality. Remember, sexuality is fluid; whom you are sexually or romantically attracted to at the moment does not define your sexuality. 

People may understand who they are attracted to, both sexually and romantically, at an early age. But for some, this process may come to fruition over the years. However, people may experience more than one sexualities at different points in their lives. 

As a woman, you may be dating men and having sexual relations with them, but you may feel romantical and/or sexually attracted to a woman as well. 

This article will touch upon different types of sexualities/ sexual orientations. However, it may be noted that even if there are terms for your sexual or romantic attraction, sexuality or sexual orientation doesn’t always come under such definable categories. 

How is Sexuality different from Gender Identity?

Sexuality is who are you are sexually or romantically attracted to. Gender identity is who you identify yourself as to the world. 

Gender identity describes one belonging to the male/ female/ transgender category. A person’s self-concept of gender, irrespective of their assigned biological sex at birth, is their gender identity. 

Gender identity is who they prefer to be called- man/ woman/ non-binary/ transgender. Gender identity is beyond ‘he’ or ‘she.’ Let’s not confuse an individual’s gender identity with sexuality.

Sexuality or sexual orientation is whom they like. For example, a person identifying themselves as male is not necessarily sexually, romantically, or emotionally attracted to females. That male could be attracted to anyone.

Different Types of Sexualities 

Asexuality 

Asexuality is the sexual orientation wherein the individuals do not experience sexual attraction to any person regardless of gender. 

However, asexual individuals may deeply feel romantically and emotionally attracted to a person of any gender. 

Bisexuality 

Bisexuality is the sexual orientation wherein a person experiences sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attraction towards more than one gender. 

Commonly referred to as ‘bi’, a bisexual individual feels sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards the same/similar gender and/or opposite gender. 

Cupiosexuality

A cupiosexual individual refers to an asexual person who does not experience sexual attraction but desires to engage in sexual activity.  

Demisexuality 

Demisexuality refers to the sexuality of the people who experience sexual attraction towards a person after experiencing romantic and/or emotional interest.  

Gay 

Gay is referred to as the individuals who experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction toward a person of the same/similar gender as they are. 

Some women experiencing sexual and romantic attraction towards women commonly refer to themselves as gay, whereas others prefer lesbian or queer. 

In the medical and psychological fields, the term Homosexual refers to a gay individual. However, ‘homosexual’ has begun to be old-fashioned and offensive.

Heterosexual

Heterosexual individual experiences sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attraction toward a person of the opposite sex. For instance, male vs female, man vs woman. 

Transgender individuals can be heterosexual. The individuals identifying as heterosexual are commonly described as ‘straight’. 

Homosexuality 

The term ‘homosexual,’ viewed as outdated and offensive, is commonly used in medicine and psychology. The term refers to the individuals who experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards a person of the same or similar sex. 

Lesbian

A woman experiencing sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards a same-sex person is a lesbian. 

Some women may like to refer to themselves as gay/queer. 

Omnisexual

Omnisexual individuals’ sexual and/or romantic attraction is not limited to a person of one gender or sexual orientation. 

They may experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards the same/similar sex or the opposite sex. Omnisexual is similar to pansexual. 

Pansexual 

Pansexual individuals can experience attraction (sexual or/and romantic/ towards a person of any gender, sex, and sexual orientation. 

Queer 

The term Queer in the acronym LGBTQIA+ is an umbrella term for all those individuals who are exclusively not heterosexuals. 

People who identify themselves as queer do not methodically fit into bisexual, gay, lesbian, or transgender. 

This term was looked down upon and frowned upon, hinting at its derogatory meaning. But with time, it has resurfaced as a socially acceptable term. 

However, some people still don’t like to identify themselves as queer despite the extensive use of the term. Therefore, ‘queer’ should be used respectfully, considering the sensitivity of the term. 

Sapiosexual 

Individuals identifying themselves as sapiosexuals are attracted to the other person’s intelligence. Gender, sexual orientation, and sex are no concern for sapiosexual individuals. 

Winding Up

Although we have understood the meanings of different sexualities here, identifying individuals worldwide with a particular sexual orientation can be complex. In other and familiar words, the process of coming out of the closet is/may be an emotional drive for them. 

All these labels may be overwhelming, and it’s okay to feel so. However, knowing these terms may encourage you to learn more about yourself and seek guidance per se. The importance of this knowledge lies in how you understand and identify yourself. This way, you can further reach out to the community while you are on the path of self-discovery and sexual exploration.  

“Squirting has been getting a lot of attention in recent years. Accurate information and conversation about the sexual realities of female-assigned folks- whose bodies are still often subject to myth and mystery- is fantastic. That said, squirting is sometimes presented as something to “achieve” or an essential part of being sexually liberated. This creates a lot of unnecessary pressure.” 

Kitty May, Director of Education and Community Outreach at Other Nature.

What is Female Squirting?

Female Squirting or Female Ejaculation is the involuntary expulsion of fluid – not exactly urine but a combination of urea, uric acid, and creatinine. Besides these chemical constituents, the expelled fluid contains PSA (prostate-specific antigen). 

In men, PSA is produced by the prostate. But in women, prostate tissues in Skene’s glands are located at the lower end of the urethra- on the front wall of the vagina. 

Squirting usually occurs from G-Spot Stimulation or G-spot and Clitoral dual stimulation. And if Skene’s gland is stimulated, you will most likely squirt. This is because Skene’s glands and the G-Spot are close to each other. 

For most people with a vulva, stimulation of the G-Spot brings intense sexual pleasure, often triggering the secretions from the Skene’s glands, which come out as female squirting/ female ejaculation. 

Sex Educator Samantha Evans says, “The varying levels of development and size of these glands between individuals may partially explain why some women experience dramatic ejaculations while others don’t.” 

Can everybody do it? Do all the people with vulvas squirt?

That’s one of the common questions asked about female squirting. The studies and research on squirting have shown conflicting results. 

Certified Sex coach Gigi Engle, the author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life, says that it appears that anybody with a vulva has the “mechanics” required to squirt. According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, estimates suggest that between 10 and 50 per cent of women ejaculate. 

Some women or people with a vulva may experience squirting during the orgasm, and some may experience it without or before the orgasm. The study concluded that all females ejaculate, but some may not expel the fluid as it returns to the bladder, which then passes it during urination. 

What does it feel like?

For every person with a vulva, the experience of squirting varies. According to Dr Lauren Streicher, an Associate Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the Feinberg School of Medicine, there is no science to prove that people who squirt have better orgasms than the ones who do not squirt. A normal orgasm can be as good with or without squirting. 

What People on Reddit say about squirting: 

1. “Feels like… when you repeatedly stimulate your g-spot for a while your vagina starts to contract as you are about to orgasm and then all of a sudden there is a warm gushy splashing and you look down and you’ve made a puddle. The first time it happened for me I had been masturbating only my G-spot for about an hour and I thought I felt something, so I sat on the floor in front of a mirror and watched myself do it again. I ended up laughing a lot at my facial expression when it happened as it was not so much an orgasmic “Oh” face but an “Oh fuck it won’t stop squirting so high I did not anticipate this” face.” – Olves
   
   
2. “For me it feels like a lot of pressure building up inside me. The stimulation needs to be really intense for me to squirt, so it feels really really good as he’s putting pressure on my a-spot and g-spot. In terms of when the fluid is actually released, sometimes I feel a small release in that pressure, other times I don’t feel anything at all and the only way I know I’m squirting is to look down and see it spraying out or for my partner to tell me it’s happening. Super hot to watch, especially seeing just how much he absolutely LOVES it.” – Maxxters  
   
   
3. “For me, it feels kinda like the pressure of having to go pee before it happens, when it happens, it gushes out and feel super amazing. The first time it happened, I honestly did not know what happened, and thought I did pee. My husband was the one who had to explain it.” – MFDirtyThrowaway
   
   
4. “I can squirt by either clit or g-spot stimulation. I started doing it in my mid-20’s and just thought I was incredibly wet, it didn’t occur to me that I was squirting until I actually felt it jet out of me the first time. My boyfriend unlocked something inside of me the first time he fingered me, I had never produced a wet spot that big before. We jokingly refer to it as “the lake Erie incident” and have since invested in a mat to protect the bed due to the amt of fluid he can cause me to produce. He says he loves it, can’t get enough of it, and goes wild when he sees and feels it happening, which makes me feel like a sex goddess. I felt like the sexiest thing alive when I sat on his face for the first time and he sat up afterwards just dripping from me, grinning ear to ear. The sensation is different from peeing, there is a deep pressure that builds up and it feels differently than urine when it comes out. Sometimes it pours out, other times it squirts out, and then there are other times where he pulls out of me and THEN it comes gushing out. I also have times where it doesn’t happen at all. It’s nothing to be scared of and I have no tips on how to make it happen other than stay hydrated, relax, and go with the flow. :)”- RiotGrrL319

It may appear that female squirting is similar to an orgasm; sometimes, it is not. Sometimes, they are sexually aroused enough that penetration alone makes them squirt. It is certainly different in every person’s case, whether it’s mere squirting or squirting with orgasm. 

How do you try it?

You can try methods to make your partner squirt. As mentioned above, squirting is most likely to happen upon the person’s G-Spot being stimulated. 

How do you stimulate the G-Spot? Where is it located?

The G-spot is an erogenous zone located 5-8 cm inside the vagina. The Skene’s glands that secrete the ‘ejaculate’ are roughly in the same place as the G-spot. So when the G-spot is stimulated in a ‘come hitherto’ motion, the Skene’s glands are massaged along with it, producing the ‘ejaculate’. 

The classic way to find your G-spot is:

1. Sit with your knees bent, and open your labia if you wish to. 
2. Insert a finger into the vagina, and curl it up upwards- basically towards the belly button. 
3. You will feel a patch slightly more textured than the surrounding flesh, something like the skin of an orange. That’s your G-Spot! 

And now, stimulate it gently and slowly. Take your time, and explore. Of course, it may happen that you won’t squirt, and that’s completely okay! 

You can also use a lot of lubricants as it will reduce the risk of any soreness or injury. Stimulate the G-Spot either with a finger or a G-Spot Vibrator. They have the perfect angles, making reaching the G-Spot for stimulation easier. 

As the G-Spot is stimulated, the arousal increases. The erectile tissue fills with blood, the G-spot and the labia become larger, and the squirting happens. 

Winding Up! 

Female Squirting or Female Ejaculation isn’t bad or wrong. People with vulva may squirt, or they may not. If you squirt, it’s normal. If you don’t squirt, then also it’s perfectly fine. There’s nothing dirty or unattractive about it. So, if you are too worried about it being a sexual health issue or a problem in general, don’t be.