Remember the thrill you felt when your partner pulled you into a bathroom stall and had a steamy make-out session? The time when you felt them up in public, or they whispered in your ear about the sexy spanking when you return?
A sudden sexual approach can heighten your sexual arousal and rush your adrenaline. If the regular tricks of air-freshening the room and sexting for sex at night have gotten monotonous, then maybe it’s time to spice up your relationship with sexual surprise.
It’s common for couples’ sex life to touch a low point. Many people in long-term relationships or marriages fall into routines or patterns. Human minds are designed for newness. Understandably, the excitement fades over time while having sex with one person in the same position(s). Other reasons may include hormones, stress, decreased libido, sexuality exploration, etc.
Couples can spice up their relationship or marriage with effective sexual surprises with just a little effort. Some of the things that couples talk about missing in their marriages are novelty, playfulness, and surprises.
Here are ten sexual surprises for you to try to spice up your marriage-
A sexy-flirty message to your partner can have them anticipate the surprise when they return. It adds both playfulness and mystery to your relationship. A sensual photo of yours when they least expect it can have them think of you in sexier ways than usual. [Read- Flirty messages for a relationship]
Whether scheduled or spontaneous, date nights make for the best sexual surprise. You don’t need to get ready together for the date night. Instead, both of you can meet up at the restaurant or hotel. It can be a dinner date followed by a stay at the hotel. Or you can simply knock on the door where your partner is waiting, ready with some unexpected sexy surprise. Basically, a canvas for you to colour with playfulness, fantasy, and passion!
Good fun, super sexy, and an exciting sexual surprise can be role plays. You can begin with communicating about role-play in a playful manner. It is also possible and normal for one partner to not feel as comfortable with role-playing. You can try saying, ‘I would love to see you wearing…’ or ‘I’d really like us to try…’
Trust me when I say, talking about your fantasies or the things you’d like each other to do in bed alone becomes an incredible sexual experience. Discussing the new positions before actually trying, telling her she looks spank-worthy, touching him sensually while talking about your fantasies, etc. can be fantastic. Simply talking about desires can keep things hot. Just dip your toe and allow the curiosity to grow.
Experimenting with ‘tools and toys’ add to the adventurous sexual ride for you. Some vibrating, pulsing, and penetrating with a couple’s vibrator can stir things up. A little pain with pleasure, some resistance with teasing, and almost naked rather than fully naked can prove to be super exciting.
Foreplay, foreplay, FOREPLAY! If this word sounds overused, then I shall make it more clear-
Go slow; approach them with featherlight touches, observe their body’s response, pull them close to you, whisper sweet-nothings or sexy-nothings in their ear, tell them how goosebumps on their skin arouse you- you get the idea!
You will experience a more intense connection with your partner when you are fully present with them. You find yourself more concentrated on touch and movement rather than the orgasm.
Trying out a new position may not always be comfortable for various reasons. You can start with a pillow under their butt; it helps with deeper penetration. Before going for a different position, make your partner feel special about themselves- talk about how sexy they look tonight, and let them know how their sight still does something to you.
While trying out new positions, ensure each other’s comfort. Look at this article for the best sex positions for plump and curvy people!
When least expected, find a creative way to flash to your partner. This peep show will undoubtedly lead you to a passionate sexual encounter as soon as you enter the room. Those times can be:
It’s no wonder things go a little south regarding love and sex in a long-term relationship or marriage. But speaking with a sex counsellor or a sex coach can help your relationship. From saying the right thing to doing the right things, the sexy way can spice up your marriage. With a sexual surprise a day, your marriage will not just be a happy one, but also a rocking one!
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