Here are Some Intimate Questions to Ask Your Partner!

Did you ever wonder why people call them “Intimate questions”? That is just how we are wired to think of them, and that can quickly lead way too vaginas rising into the bedroom conversation. Well there is the whole other world. How great would it be if these questions could open up a whole new world of emotional bonding? Intrigued? Let us dig deeper and get into some questions unaddressed in the physical, but delving deep straight to the soul of emotional intimacy. Ready to explore?

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Look at these intimate questions to ask your partner, starting from the physical attraction and going all the way to a future you may both share.

General Attraction Questions to Ask Your Partner

This is the kind of intimate stuff you ask your partner to get an idea about them, preferences and all or how do they talk with respect to one another whatever. their significations on a date etc.

‘What’s the first thing you noticed about me in our very first met?’
‘What is your idea of an ideal partner?’
‘What attracts you to someone?’
‘What are the physical traits in someone that attracts you?’
‘Do you have a type? Do I fit in who you’re looking for?’
‘How do you describe me to other people?’
‘What qualities do you find special in me?’
‘What goals do you have when you picture us together?’
‘What type of scent do you like on women/men?’
‘How would you respond if I changed something in my appearance- let’s say, my hair length or colour, weight gain or loss, or less/more muscle?’
‘What is something you think is true about me, but you never asked?’
‘What did you think of me when you first saw me?’
‘Is there something you’d like me to continue doing that I don’t do now?’
‘What bad habit of mine gets to you?’
‘What activity do you like doing with me?’
‘Tell me something you admire about me?’
‘How often do you have to put my needs before yours?’
‘How can I make you feel more loved, heard, and understood?’
‘What is the most ‘right’ thing I do in our relationship?’
What are you most proud of in our relationship?

Intimate Questions about the Past to Ask Your Partner.

To start off with, you could work out who this person was a little more. Ask these intimate past questions to your partner if you are planning stay with him/her for long time or both of you in serious relation, marriage thought. However asking these questions will also open gates to your past as well.
How many partners did you have before me?
Have you been in love before me?
Did you ever cheat on your partner? Or did you think about it but changed your mind?
Who do you consider your role model in life and love?
What did you think when we first went out?
Did you ever debate asking me out? Why would you not have gone for it?
Did you meet me when looking for something to love?
When did you first know that you loved me?
What are your fears from childhood?
What worst thing happened to you, and you haven’t discussed it?
Best thing ever to happen from your past?
Have you ever been charged with a crime?
Is there anything that you are still kicking yourself for from the days of your youth?
Have you been in love and got your heart broken before?
Have you broken anyone’s heart in love?

Questions about intimacy and connection

These questions range between sexual and emotional intimacy. Such intimate questions help you know your partner more on an emotional and sexual level.
Is our relationship physical enough in your eyes?
Where and how do you like to be touched the most?
Where and how do you like to be kissed?
What do you think about the toys and us using them?
Is there something we do with which you are not comfortable?
What makes you feel most comfortable in bed?
What is your idea of foreplay?
How often would you like us to be intimate, realistically?
Do you have any fantasies you’d like to carry out?
What are some new things you would like us to try?
Do you feel safe and comfortable enough to say NO?
What do you think about being intimate over texts or video calls?

Serious Questions about Life

These questions are about life in general. The plans, family, parents, children, finances, etc. Take a look at how you can communicate about these things-
What do you think about having kids someday? What are your thoughts on parenthood?
What is your most important moral value?
What will be unforgivable in our relationship?
How would you want to manage finances- do you want us to support one another financially?
Where do you see yourself on the professional front in the next five years?
Which is more important for you- financial security or
How would you want me to best support you during hard times?
How do you want us to work through the hard times?
What movie or book has had the most influence on you?
What are the things you feel most grateful for in our relationship?
Would you feel safe telling me any embarrassing story or deep secret from the past?
What inspires you the most?
Which material possessions would you never leave behind in case of a natural calamity or an accident?
How would you view yourself as- a nurturer or a provider?
What new skills would you like to learn?
What beliefs have you carried in your adulthood, and which ones do you reject now?
Do you have any insecurities related to me?
What do you think are my insecurities?
Do you feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with me?
Has this relationship taught you any lessons about love or life?
In what capacity do you see us interacting with the extended family?
How often would they visit us and vice versa?
How much would you like our parents to be involved in the upbringing of our kids?
How would you like to spend your holidays?
How do you feel about me wanting to take my parents in when they are older?
Would you want us to take your parents in when they are older?
What would you do if your family didn’t like me?
What does the majority of your spending go to?
What major expenses do you see us having during the next year?
What is your financial strategy?

These questions are based on general conversation. Whichever you resonate with, focus on them. You can leave the rest!