If you have had a secret relationship or that special friend, whom you don’t talk about in public, you would know that this arrangement can be both fun and exhausting.
It could be fun because of the memorable moments, excitement, and thrill, but exhausting because of all the intense planning and almost ‘anxiety attacks’ when planning a date.
In other words, secret relationships can be both taxing and thrilling. So, it makes sense why many people have contrasting opinions on it.
Take a look at these contrasting secret relationship quotes, for example:
Then there are some relations in the world that don’t require a relationship status; the love is secretly felt in the hearts of the two. The dark secrets…”
Anonymous
Love ceases to be a pleasure when it ceases to be a secret.
Aphra Behn
Keeping the opinions aside, I wanted to understand why men and women thrive on having secret relationships.
Before I delve further into it, I want to state that the words ‘men’ and ‘women’ are not limited to the people of cisgender. Therefore, whosoever identifies themselves as men or women can relate/ connect with this post.
Someone could choose to keep their relationship secret because they fear judgement from family or friends. Or maybe they are just a private person in general.
For example, if you are having an affair with somebody in the office, you might want to keep your feelings for each other hidden to avoid unwanted gossip.
Likewise, if you have an affair with your best friend or neighbour’s partner, you would like to keep it a secret to avoid unnecessary drama, judgement, or discussions. However, you never know when one of the nosy neighbours catches you both together and spreads the gossip.
There could be more to it, and we’ll discover it through this article.
On that note, let us find out a few reasons for having a secret relationship.
Remember those childhood days – when you and your friends would have intense fun playing secret games. In a sense, they would whisper something into your ears, telling you not to share it with others, and you’d feel a little pride for knowing something others don’t know?
The secret relationship has a similar thrill – it stays between you and your partner- and nobody has a word on it until you’re ready to make it public.
The bottom line is that a secret relationship has its own set of suspense and fun. There is massive excitement involved in it. Of course, it could be the secret meetings, lack of public opinions, and the physical intimacy you both provide to each other.
I mean, people can gossip all they want. You and your partner may appear very mysterious, but you’re not answerable to anyone. So why not make most of it?
The numero uno reason for having a secret relationship is physical pleasure. Many people are not happy with their sex life or the sex drive of their partner, and they opt for secret affairs for bodily pleasure.
They want to derive pleasure in the form of somebody else. It is hot because nobody gotta know about the fling between them and their secret partner.
Again, I’m not encouraging anyone to betray their partner or cheat. In this article, we’re just looking at the whys.
You probably would know by now why Eve decided to go ahead and taste the forbidden fruit. That is the fun of it.
You are into a secret relationship because that is what it is. However, you want to do something forbidden, and you cannot resist the good time you spend with your secret friend or partner.
This friend or secret partner of yours might be your best friend’s spouse or your sibling’s friend. So naturally, it becomes more fun and exciting when you have hot flings with them. But then, you get into a fantasy world and do things that you could have only thought of in your dreams.
Don’t get me wrong, and I don’t mean that you have to alter your personality to like someone completely. It simply means that you might want to avoid unwanted drama and keep your relationship hidden unless and until you are comfortable.
This secret fling could be a stranger or even your friend – but what makes it tempting is that you’re not trapped around judgements, questions, or unwanted opinions.
You are a free bird. Therefore, you can be flexible and live as you want during those short moments in time.
Eating the forbidden fruit comes with its own set of consequences. For example, you will most likely get bored someday, or your partner may leave you for somebody else.
These things happen, and you both know it from the day you had your secret relationship. Perhaps, that’s why you wanted it because you weren’t prepared for a serious relationship. But you never know. There are exceptions to everything. And to this, too, many couples start as casual flings in secrecy but end up together forever.
So, when you’re thinking of engaging in a secret affair, you might also be physically, mentally, and emotionally prepared for that day because it might come unannounced. You never know when the bell will strike. That is why you might want to make the most of it in a secret relationship.
Perhaps, the best you can do is avoid too much evidence in the form of social media photos, which are the number one giveaway. The whole idea is to meet up with your secret relationship friend in a hotel, your home (if you think it is safe), or even in your car (if you want more excitement) and have a blast.
Having a secret relationship can be fun and adventurous at the same time. Many adults opt for this kind of relationship to bring a spark into their dull and monotonous lives.
While it does wonder most couples’ lives plus, it can also cause conflicts if you’re married or committed to somebody else.
It will be your call to leap. Everything comes with its risks. As you read in the above post, a secret relationship can come with positives and might have its set of consequences as well.
I’ll wrap this article with a thoughtful secret relationship quote:
“I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul.”
