Knowing how to flirt with a guy or a girl is not as easy as it sounds. Showing someone you like them and having them see you?- Yes, it indeed requires some special skill. Of course, some people are natural, some have the gift of looks and a tongue that knows the talking, and some are pure geniuses who seem to be getting this dating thing. Sadly, introverts or shy people don’t have the same advantage. Besides, going over to someone and saying, ‘hey, I fancy you…’ can prove to be overriding for us and leave us sweating.
But don’t you worry, ‘cause I got you covered with these “How to flirt with a guy Tips and Tricks”.
If you are a part of LGBTQ+ and identify as a woman, these trips and tricks will work the same for you. However, I shall write a complete guide for you on how to tell if a woman likes you.
Experts suggest that a look can do wonders. But knowing how and when to maintain eye contact makes the difference. For example, a lingering glance when they are talking so fondly about their childhood and a long hard stare when they eat shall have a VERY different impact.
So what should you do? While flirting, look into their eyes, their mouth, and then back into their eyes. Stare, but not too intensely. Make them feel seen and not uncomfortable.
Be suggestive; mildly or ‘accidentally’ touch them, linger your hand on their arm, back, or shoulder for a second longer. Overt teasing can either embarrass or repel your crush.
Flirt enough to make them wonder whether you’re interested in them or not. Their curiosity will lead them to you.
You can reach for an appetiser simultaneously with your crush and then back off a little. If that person is drawn toward you, they will allow you into their personal space by moving closer. Another way of testing whether they are okay with you being in their space is passing by them and ‘accidentally’ brushing against their shoulder. Look their way and smile at them. There’s no need to get into a conversation with them. Just a little smile and a wave or a ‘hi’ will do the work.
But don’t do it the second time they catch your attention. Instead, pretend to be on your phone or engrossed in conversation with a friend. Then, when they pass by you, look up, and flash a smile at them.
By this, I don’t mean to get into a full-blown interrogation. Ask them a simple question. For example, tell them you’re thinking about getting a haircut. Ask for their opinion on what length of hair shall suit you best. Asking casual questions like this one will draw their attention to you.
Besides the apparent compliments on their appearance or fragrance, subtle flirting happens when the moment is right, and the words are on point. For example, when they tousle their hair, look at them with a longing gaze and tell them, “You look so hot.” Check them out while doing something basic, and let your lingering gaze and a few words do the trick.
People who get the humour like people with humour and wit. If intelligent comments come naturally to you, develop them to up your flirting skills. Don’t be too sarcastic; it may get offensive. You also don’t need to use cheesy lines that may make you look desperate. Your witty responses should be natural and filled with good humour. Of course, he may not find your humour funny, for he may have a different sense of it. But don’t worry, you can look for a common ground to engage them in a conversation.
An effortless yet essential way of flirting with them is being genuinely interested in what your crush is talking about. It’s normal for you to be interested in something they don’t know much about and vice versa. But take this opportunity to listen to and learn something new. Ask questions if you miss some detail or information. Show your curiosity about what they want to tell you. Don’t jump in with your own opinions. Listen and observe. Use their name; it creates an emotional bond between you and them.
While flirting with a guy over text or in person, don’t be super ecstatic or enthusiastic. Don’t respond to every single question. Instead, try leaving a few questions hanging. Keep your messages short and sweet. This will build his curiosity to unfold some of your mystery. However, don’t overdo it. Being excessively mysterious or secretive can exude plain rudeness and make you look unapproachable.
To ‘How to flirt with a guy over text’, the only answer is- to send them flirty texts. Comment on their photos, and send them a wink emoji, not too often, but now and then. Ask them about the photo so that they respond. Leave something for him to respond to.
Stretch your body, adjust your shawl or shrug, rub your arm or shoulder, pull your shirt slightly down your neckline, lick or bite your lip- draw their eyes to your body. Such small movements will have their heart pumping and their eyes on you.
Ask them simple questions. Keep an engaging conversation, and leave something in the end for them to respond to. Don’t bombard their phone with texts. Avoid coming on too strong or replying with a stream of messages. Let some questions hang there. Let curiosity build up. Keep it short, positive, and sweet.
To answer that, do all the above-mentioned things just a little bit more. Don’t forget to be clear about your intentions. Be confident, and say Hi! Compliment them on their cuteness and appearance, or talk positively about something you’ve observed when they feel nervous. If the person is shy, they will hesitate to ask for a second date. So, you take the lead and ask when they would like the second date, if the first one goes well, that is.
