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		<title>Why Is It So Hard to Heal a Broken Heart?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Oct 2025 20:34:18 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Originally published on Quora. This one is just an extended version of the Quora answer.  If you’re here, chances are you’re carrying that ache—the one that doesn’t leave you when you smile in public, work all day, or keep yourself busy with a hundred distractions. Let’s be honest: heartbreak feels impossible. And no, it’s not <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/why-is-it-so-hard-to-heal-a-broken-heart/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Originally published on <a href="https://qr.ae/pCtEI2">Quora</a>. This one is just an extended version of the Quora answer. </em></p>
<p data-start="454" data-end="773">If you’re here, chances are you’re carrying that ache—the one that doesn’t leave you when you smile in public, work all day, or keep yourself busy with a hundred distractions.</p>
<p data-start="454" data-end="773">Let’s be honest: heartbreak feels impossible. And no, it’s not just you. Almost everyone who has ever loved deeply has felt this weight.</p>
<p data-start="775" data-end="861">You might wonder: <em data-start="793" data-end="859">Why is it so hard? Why can’t I just get over it like people say?</em></p>
<p data-start="863" data-end="1176">Think of it this way. If a window breaks, you can buy a new one. If your clothes are dirty, you can wash or replace them. If a baby cries, eventually they can be soothed. But when the heart breaks—there is no store to buy a new one from, no quick wash cycle, no shortcut. And that is why it feels so unbearable.</p>
<h2 data-start="1183" data-end="1234">The Truth You Don’t Want to Hear (But Need To)</h2>
<p data-start="1236" data-end="1429">Here’s something I need to tell you: there is no shortcut to healing. And I know that’s not what you want to hear. Because what you want is the one thing no one can give you right now—relief.</p>
<p data-start="1431" data-end="1657">So you reach for distractions. Drinking, smoking, hookups, endless scrolling, keeping yourself so busy you can’t think. And maybe they work for a night, a week, even a month. But deep down you know—it’s still there, waiting.</p>
<p data-start="1659" data-end="1910">Then you try the “healthy” distractions. Gym, journaling, self-help books, podcasts, working on yourself. And these are good—but even these cannot be the <em data-start="1813" data-end="1819">only</em> answer. Because heartbreak is not a problem to solve. It is an experience to go through.</p>
<h2 data-start="1917" data-end="1948">Why It Feels Like a Battle</h2>
<p data-start="1950" data-end="2227">Healing is hard because it is a fight between two parts of you. The part of you that wants to hold on—because the love was real, the memories mattered, and you don’t want to erase them. And the part of you that knows you need to let go—because holding on is bleeding you dry.</p>
<p data-start="2229" data-end="2303">Both are valid. Both are human. And both take time to settle into peace.</p>
<h2 data-start="2310" data-end="2334">What Actually Heals</h2>
<p data-start="2336" data-end="2412">So what really works? Not magic. Not shortcuts. Just <strong data-start="2389" data-end="2409">time + intention</strong>.</p>
<p data-start="2414" data-end="2643">Time softens the pain, but intention guides it. Without time, you can’t move forward. Without intention, you get stuck. Healing happens when you let yourself grieve <em data-start="2579" data-end="2584">and</em> slowly make choices that align with life, not with loss.</p>
<p data-start="2645" data-end="2668">That might look like:</p>
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<p data-start="2671" data-end="2712">Allowing yourself to cry without shame. Whether in front of others or in the shower, in a pub after getting drunk or alone in your room&#8211; choose your way to cope with it and heal. Because bottling everything in is going to cost you more of your sanity.</p>
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<p data-start="2715" data-end="2778">Talking it out with people you trust, and who, you know, will support you, no matter what. Perhaps, they won&#8217;t always put up with your delusional ideas of love and they may even tell you to snap out of it. Don&#8217;t be offended with it. You <strong>may</strong> need both kinds of loves&#8211; soft and tough. But believe that you have your people. The ones you can lean onto.</p>
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<p data-start="2781" data-end="2848">Choosing not to stalk their social media (yes, that one matters). Block them, if the need be. Or keep a check on yourself&#8211; lessen the frequency of you stalking them with each week.</p>
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<p data-start="2851" data-end="2912">Rebuilding your routines. Not all easy, but definitely worth trying. Grieving takes a toll on your body&#8211; sleeping in all day, staying in bed, binge watching shows, binge-eating or not eating at all, not bathing, not doing any household chores, not showing up to meetings, staring at the ceiling lifelessly and listlessly. Yes, it happens. We go through it all. It&#8217;s all a part of your healing process. But slowly and steadily&#8211; drag yourself out of bed. Brush your teeth and comb your hair. Make your bed or organise the strewn clothes. Do the dishes or the laundry. One thing at a time. It&#8217;s totally natural and normal for you to slip back in the old pattern of inactivity. But remind yourself to get back up and do those things&#8211; one day at a time.</p>
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<p data-start="2915" data-end="2971">Reminding yourself daily: <em data-start="2941" data-end="2969">I am still worthy of love. </em>Even when it doesn&#8217;t feel that way.<em> </em>Have people who support you unabashedly. Let them tell you that you are worthy of all the love and affection. Let them support you.</p>
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<li data-start="2913" data-end="2971">Going no-contact (highly important and highly recommended. My ex didn&#8217;t talk to me for months; it helped us a great deal. Yes, my ex is a better person than me.)</li>
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<p data-start="2973" data-end="3127">These are not one-time acts. They are daily practices, and some days you will fail. That’s okay. Healing is not about perfection—it’s about persistence.</p>
<h2 data-start="3134" data-end="3156">A Gentle Reminder</h2>
<p data-start="3158" data-end="3315">If you’re reading this, I want you to hear me: you are not weak for struggling. You are not dramatic for hurting. You are not broken for taking “too long.”</p>
<p data-start="3317" data-end="3462">Heartbreak feels unbearable because love mattered to you. And that’s not something to be ashamed of—that’s something to respect about yourself.</p>
<p data-start="3464" data-end="3753">There will come a morning when you’ll notice it. The weight will have shifted, the silence won’t be so loud, the ache won’t stab as sharply. You won’t even know when it happened—but you’ll realize you’re breathing easier. That is how healing works: quietly, slowly, and then all at once.</p>
<h2 data-start="3760" data-end="3779">Final Thoughts</h2>
<p data-start="3781" data-end="4018">So yes, it’s hard to heal a broken heart. Hard because there are no shortcuts, and harder still because you want relief right now. But if you let time do its work, and keep choosing small intentional acts of living, you will get there.</p>
<p data-start="4020" data-end="4166">Your heart will not remain broken forever. And when it heals, it will not just be patched—it will be stronger, wiser, and still capable of love.</p>
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		<title>Love, Laughs, and Learning: My Marriage Makeover Journey</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Feb 2024 13:15:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hello, dear readers! Today, I&#8217;m getting personal and sharing a journey that&#8217;s close to my heart – how taking charge of my emotional responses and embracing boundaries breathed new life into my marriage with Arjun. My Backstory: A Rollercoaster of Emotions Once upon a time, I was the queen of emotional outbursts. My reactions, though <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/love-laughs-and-learning-my-marriage-makeover-journey/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hello, dear readers! Today, I&#8217;m getting personal and sharing a journey that&#8217;s close to my heart – how taking charge of my emotional responses and embracing boundaries breathed new life into my marriage with Arjun.</p>
<h3><strong>My Backstory: A Rollercoaster of Emotions</strong></h3>
<p>Once upon a time, I was the queen of emotional outbursts. My reactions, though well-intentioned, were like fireworks – spectacular but not always appropriate. This took a toll on my relationship with Arjun, creating more drama than a season finale of your favourite soap opera.</p>
<h3><strong>The Turning Point: Honoring Boundaries</strong></h3>
<p>Two years ago, something clicked. I learned about honouring boundaries – not just Arjun&#8217;s, but mine too. It was like finding a new lens to view our marriage. Suddenly, the past scenes of my melodramatic responses played in my head, and I realized it was time for a change.</p>
<h3><strong>Reflecting and Acknowledging: The Road to Apologies</strong></h3>
<p>Self-reflection isn&#8217;t easy, especially when it feels like staring into a mirror that shows all your imperfections. But it was necessary. I acknowledged my mistakes and apologized to Arjun – not just with words, but with actions. It was like spring cleaning for the soul.</p>
<h3>Also Read- <a href="https://www.mindfulsome.com/35-characteristics-of-a-healthy-relationship/">35 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship</a></h3>
<h3><strong>Setting My Boundaries: A New Chapter</strong></h3>
<p>More than just saying sorry, I began to uphold my boundaries. This wasn&#8217;t about building walls but rather painting lines on a shared canvas, showing where I end and where I begin. It left room for personal growth, exploring passions, and even completing my master&#8217;s. I started feeling like a protagonist in an inspiring coming-of-age novel.</p>
<h3><strong>The Transformation: Confidence and Clarity</strong></h3>
<p>This newfound understanding of boundaries didn&#8217;t just apply to my marriage; it was a universal remote that changed every channel of my life. I stopped tolerating nonsense, understood my worth, and became the confident, bold person I am today – like a superhero discovering her powers, but instead of a cape, I had self-respect.</p>
<h3><strong>Today: Best Friends and Business Partners</strong></h3>
<p>Fast forward to today, Arjun and I aren&#8217;t just husband and wife; we&#8217;re best friends and also work alongside each other. Our relationship is like a well-oiled machine, celebrating quirks and differences with fewer breakdowns and more tune-ups. He&#8217;s become more expressive, and I&#8217;ve upgraded my communication software – it&#8217;s not just about talking; it&#8217;s about listening, understanding, and engaging in mature conversations.</p>
<h3><strong>Learning and Growing: Communication Is a Two-Way Street</strong></h3>
<p>I used to think communication was about talking non-stop, like a radio host on their first day. But real communication is a two-way street – it&#8217;s as much about listening and understanding as it is about talking. And when things heat up, it&#8217;s about knowing when to take a breather for clarity, like a well-timed commercial break in a heated debate. This realisation alone transformed the way we communicated.</p>
<h3><strong>Work in Progress: Grateful and Growing</strong></h3>
<p>I&#8217;m a work in progress, a daily learner in the school of life. I&#8217;m not a perfect partner or parent, but I&#8217;m a dedicated student. Each day, I strive to be better than yesterday, embracing my flaws, taking responsibility, and continuously evolving. It&#8217;s a journey for which I&#8217;m grateful every step of the way.</p>
<p>So, that&#8217;s my story – a tale of emotional fireworks, boundary discoveries, and finding harmony in the chaos. If you&#8217;ve ever felt like a work in progress, remember you&#8217;re not alone. We&#8217;re all in this together, learning, growing, and becoming better versions of ourselves. Here&#8217;s to our collective journey of self-improvement!</p>
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		<title>Effect of Menopause on Sex Drive</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 03 Jun 2022 16:28:20 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Menopause And Libido: Decreased Sex Drive Sex DriveChange: As estrogen levels dip during perimenopause, some women find sex painful because their bodies produce less vaginal lubrication. Menopause is a different process for each woman and occurs at different times in their lives. Women postmenopausal complaints of sexual help are needed. A loss of libido is <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/effect-of-menopause-on-sex-drive/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
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<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><b>Menopause And Libido: Decreased Sex Drive</b></h2>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Sex DriveChange: As estrogen levels dip during perimenopause, some women find sex painful because their bodies produce less vaginal lubrication.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Menopause is a different process for each woman and occurs at different times in their lives. Women postmenopausal complaints of sexual help are needed. A loss of libido is a pervading effect of menopause.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In other words, the Low Libido and Menopause Connection</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Low testosterone and estrogen postmenopausal: Hormonal imbalances in a woman&#8217;s body can lead to decreased libido. But first things first-</span></p>
<h2><b>What Is Menopause?</b></h2>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Menopause is the process where a woman ceases to get her period. Unfortunately, The menstrual cycle is not the only thing Menopause affects and if you are at any age close to menopausal this means it has already started messing with your weight. Symptoms of Menopause are:</span></p>
<ul>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Anxiety</span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Bladder control problems</span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Depression </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Weight gain/ weight loss </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Thinning of hair </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Difficulty in sleeping </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Decreased libido</span></li>
</ul>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">But not all women need to experience a reduced sex drive. Some postmenopausal women have felt they have got an improved sexual drive. This may be related to anxiety or fear which can be associated with pregnancy making them stress free, as a result they just unwind and enjoy love making however some might engage in sexual practice with their partners.</span></p>
<h3><b>Menopause And Vaginal Dryness</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">A drop in the estrogen levels can also cause an imperceptible decrease in blood supply to the vagina. This can affect the-infertility-dry vagina, leading to painful intercourse. However, water-soluble lubricants can be used as a remedy.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Until your doctor verifies that you are no longer ovulating or menopausal, continue this method and condoms with your partner. Condoms are also the fastest way to guarantee against STDsinfections. Hence, it is recommended to have condoms while having sex.</span></p>
<h3><b>Why Does Menopause Affect Libido?</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">It is because of this reason menopause inhibits libido.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Blood flow to the vagina decreases and so tissues in the area become thinner, which makes them less receptive of arousal. Sex can also be less enjoyable and even painful because of dryness in your vagina. It could make it hard for you to orgasm.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Fluctuating hormone levels affect a woman’s mental health, reducing libido. Struggles at the job, parenting or familial responsibilities can add to her stress level. You may experience irritation and depression, and dealing with routine matters may seem difficult. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Besides these symptoms, hot flashes, anxiety, sleeping troubles, fatigue, etc. also affect her sexual drive. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Some other factors having said to reduce a woman’s libido during menopause are: </span></p>
<ul>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Chronic health disease- diabetes, depression, heart disease, etc. </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">History of smoking</span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Low levels of physical activity </span></li>
<li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Unhealthy lifestyle </span></li>
</ul>
<h2><b>Tips For Improving Libido During Menopause</b></h2>
<h3><b>Medical Treatments: </b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">People experiencing vaginal dryness or thinning of tissues can consider undergoing estrogen therapy. As mentioned earlier, they can also use water-soluble lubricants to treat vaginal dryness. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">They can directly apply prescription estrogen to the vagina. Or they can take estrogen pills that contain a higher level of hormones. However, this treatment comes with a lot of risks, though they help in reducing the symptoms like anxiety, mood changes, and hot flashes. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">People thinking about using hormone replacement therapy should consult with their doctor about all the pros and cons of it. </span></p>
<h3><b>Changes In Lifestyle:</b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Water-soluble lubricants to treat vaginal dryness and increasing sexual stimulation can benefit women. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">In addition to this, women should consider at least 30-minute exercise or physical activity to keep themselves active. Quitting smoking altogether and avoiding alcohol adds to better health and lifestyle. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Besides these, a healthy balanced diet will enhance the individual’s overall well-being. </span></p>
<h3><b>Sexual Intimacy With A Partner: </b></h3>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">One can foster intimacy with their partner in several ways other than just sexual intercourse. Before we get to those ways, please know that the more openly you talk about your reduced libido, the more ways you can figure it out together. It’s no disease; you don’t become disinterested in your partner just because you don’t feel like having sex. Talk, talk, and talk. Help your partner understand and be open about what works in bed for you. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Now, let’s take a look at some of the ways you can enhance your intimacy with your partner: </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Engage in extended periods of foreplay; take time in exploring each other’s bodies and giving each other the pleasure of intimate touch. Engage in sexual activity without the goal of orgasm. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Spend time together by doing either basic or special activities together. For example, you can pick a movie that you both enjoy watching, listen to songs, exercise, or play a game together. You can include a weekend getaway once a month in your schedule or plan some dates together. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Make use of sex toys, vibrators, etc., to enhance intimate pleasure. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">You can also consider experimenting with erotic videos, stories, and masturbation. </span><br /><br /></p>]]></content:encoded>
					
		
		
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		<title>Get birth control without parents knowing?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 11 May 2022 13:56:42 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[It’s natural for young people and teens to want and have sex. But amidst all the fun, precaution is a must. After all, you wouldn’t like an unwanted pregnancy at the age of you embarking on building a career. So, how to get birth control without your parents knowing? That is the million-dollar question and <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/how-to-get-birth-control-without-parents-knowing/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph">It’s natural for young people and teens to want and have sex. But amidst all the fun, precaution is a must. After all, you wouldn’t like an <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/can-precum-cause-pregnancy/">unwanted pregnancy</a> at the age of you embarking on building a career. So, how to get birth control without your parents knowing?</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">That is the million-dollar question and what we plan on discussing in this post.</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Being a teenager is not easy. There are so many things that you have to come across during those years. It can be highly stressful. As high school students or college graduates, we all tend to have sexual feelings and desires.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">This is normal because your body hormones keep raging and reaching a point where you feel it is time to give in. So, though you feel you are ready to have sexual intercourse with your partner or special friend, your parents may think otherwise.&nbsp;</p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Of course, parents have their reasons:</h3>



<ol class="wp-block-list"><li>They want you to focus on your career.</li><li>Your parents don’t want you to end up with an unwanted pregnancy.</li><li>They know and understand that the mistakes you make now may cost you your life.</li><li>Parents want to protect you from the sex perpetrators.</li><li>They don’t want you to get hurt physically, mentally, and emotionally.</li><li>Your parents understand that sexual desires during this age are at an all-time high, but control and carefulness are more important.</li></ol>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">But feelings don’t hide, and it gets difficult to suppress your emotions when you are meeting every day either at school or work. However, it&#8217;s important that you and your partner have each other&#8217;s <a href="https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent">active verbal consent</a>. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><a href="https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/adolescent-pregnancy">According to research, more than 50% of teenagers in many countries had had sex before they reached 18</a>. The average age as of now is 16 years for both boys and girls. Because they are young and super passionate, they may overlook some important things like- The risk of pregnancy, STDs and STIs, <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/6684911/">severe medical and health conditions</a> protection, proper sex education, <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/can-pre-cum-cause-pregnancy/">an understanding of many sex-related topics</a> etc.</p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">How to get birth control (without parents knowing)?</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">While there is nothing wrong with having sex, you may want to use the correct birth control method to avoid pregnancies. </p>



<ul class="wp-block-list"><li><strong>Use condoms or Plan B</strong></li></ul>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The best birth control method without a prescription required is using condoms. This is the best way to get birth control without parents knowing. Many pharmacy shops or medical stores have them. <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2019/feb/15/giving-teenagers-condoms-does-not-lead-to-promiscuity-or-cut-pregnancy-rates-un-study">Schools, too, hand out condoms to teenagers</a> to prevent sexually transmitted diseases without encouraging sex.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The pharmacies or medical stores do not require proof of age to sell you condoms. If you are worried about that, you can seek help from an adult friend. Maybe you can request your partner to get it for you.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">If you find it difficult going to a medical store to get condoms, you can make use of online drug stores. There is a wide range of condoms and non-prescription birth control. Unfortunately, few of them include <a href="https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/internal-condom/how-do-i-use-an-internal-condom">internal condoms</a> and <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/dental-dam#_noHeaderPrefixedContent">dental dams</a>. These may be slightly difficult to find. But you can always bet that you will be able to get condoms anytime. </p>



<ul class="wp-block-list"><li><strong>Using the pill or the IUD prescription birth control</strong></li></ul>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Another way how to get birth control without parents knowing is using the pill. When you want to keep things safe, you may want to use oral contraceptives and <a href="https://www.webmd.com/sex/birth-control/iud-intrauterine-device">IUD.</a>  </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">These are sure shot methods to avoid pregnancy. Now, different countries have different laws on these. It would help if you found out whether your country accepts minors using birth control like these.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">For example, in <a href="https://sexetc.org/states/newyork/">New York,</a> minors need to obtain their parent’s permission. You can visit a clinic to learn how to get birth control without parents knowing about it. Likewise, you can use your parent’s insurance without them knowing by requesting secrecy from the clinic.&nbsp;</p>



<figure class="wp-block-pullquote"><blockquote><p><strong>Again, all this information doesn’t mean that we encourage teenagers to engage in sexual activity without consent, protection and precaution.  </strong></p></blockquote></figure>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Many clinics worldwide understand the importance of secrecy in these sensitive issues. However, as responsible adults, they tell you everything that you should know.&nbsp;</p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Why do you need to use birth control?</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Since you now know how to get birth control without your parents knowing, you might want to see the importance of using birth control. Also, if you or your friend is planning on having sex, you must be educated on this topic.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You must do what you can to ensure that you safely have sex with your partner. Besides preventing pregnancy, you do not want to catch STDs. Therefore, a lot of initiative is required. However, many doctors are pretty impressed with the knowledge and care that young people use today.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Birth control is important to avoid:</p>



<ol class="wp-block-list"><li>Unwanted pregnancy</li><li>STDs and STIs</li><li><a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/teenage-pregnancy-effects#types">Mental health Issues</a></li><li>Abortion</li><li><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/6684911/">Problems further linked with abortion</a></li></ol>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Many teenagers hesitate to talk about sex with their parents fearing consequences or punishments. Not to mention, birth control pills come with <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/combination-birth-control-pills/about/pac-20385282">side effects</a>.</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You may also want to know that birth control pills can cause period irregularities and other health issues if not monitored well.&nbsp;</p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Talk to an adult to be on the safe side.</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">It is always good to be on the safe side, especially when it comes to having sex. Most probably, you and your partner are pretty young. A responsible and well-informed adult will guide you about the risks attached to adolescent sex.</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">We also suggest that you have a chat with your parents or elder siblings about this. It is always safe to take the suggestion of somebody older and mature in your family. Don’t be surprised to listen to their stories and escapades.&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>In closing</strong></h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">We hope you found this article on how to get birth control without parents knowing helpful. As you can see, there are many simple ways of getting it done. One does not require expensive surgery or any procedure. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You might want to talk to your partner, to ensure that you do not end up conceiving. Make sure that you know how to get and use birth control before consenting to have sexual intercourse with someone. As you can see, it makes perfect sense to use birth control and make sure that your body is protected from any unwanted diseases. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Depending on your convenience and requirement, you may use any other birth control methods from what we have stated above.&nbsp;</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jan 2022 11:17:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I read a dozen articles before starting to write this one. Articles on lifestyle blogs read something like ‘8 signs you are gay’ or ‘your dreams tell you you are not straight’. Essays on psychology websites delved deeper and gave a wider insight into an individual’s sexual orientation. But no single piece can tell you <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/signs-youre-not-straight/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph">I read a dozen articles before starting to write this one. Articles on lifestyle blogs read something like ‘8 signs you are gay’ or ‘your dreams tell you you are not straight’. Essays on psychology websites delved deeper and gave a wider insight into an individual’s sexual orientation. But no single piece can tell you exactly the signs you’re not straight or bisexual or belong to <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-gay-and-other-faqs/">LGBTQ</a>.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">After studying the subject and personal experiences, I have clearly understood one thing. Sexuality is not static. It’s not something you know one time and for a lifetime. Sexuality is as dynamic as the climate. It may remain the same for as long as you live. Or it may change as you grow old.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The society we live in expects most of us to be straight, in heterosexual relationships, not identify ourselves as anything beyond our biologically assigned sex.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">And truly do we grow thinking that we are straight only to understand that we are not.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sexual fantasies with the same gender as us, sexual dreams with an individual of the same gender, is not necessarily the evidence for our sexual orientation.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Similarly, no sexual experience with the same sex also doesn’t mean you are straight. There are <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/different-types-of-sexualities-explained/">different types of sexualities</a> explained all over the internet. And here, we shall carefully understand the signs you’re not straight.&nbsp;</p>



<h1 class="wp-block-heading">Signs You’re Not Straight&nbsp;</h1>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">As I mentioned earlier, there is never a particular sign(s) to tell whether you are straight or not. Some people may live their entire lives in heterosexual relationships to find out that they were never straight at the age of 70.&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Is there any quiz?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You can find thousands of quizzes all over the internet that claim to determine your sexuality. But sadly, there isn’t any test that can figure out your sexual orientation. It’s something you figure out yourself.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The quizzes out there may help you a tad bit initially, like you will begin to question whom you are most attracted towards or who makes you feel alive or complete, etc. But no test says that you qualify as straight or not straight.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The best way to identify yourself is with whatever terms you want to!</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">So how do you know?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">There’s no one sign you’re not straight or straight. Likewise, no test, quiz, or criterion tells you that you’re not straight, bisexual or queer.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">All you focus on is your feelings. And, besides feelings, you can explore more about different types of sexualities. There are tons of reports, research papers, and essays on sexual orientations that you can read. You can educate yourself more about the meanings of various sexualities.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Understandably, the stigma and shame around any sexual orientation besides heterosexuality is still prevalent. However, it doesn’t stop you from feeling what you feel.&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Is there anything that ‘makes’ you gay or bisexual?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">That’s quite a question to ponder upon. There are no particular things that ‘cause’ your sexual orientation. If you think that it may be the magazines you are reading secretly or the sort of porn you may be watching is affecting your sexuality, then my friend, it is not so.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Most of us have been conditioned to think that everything and anything beyond heterosexuality is just not right or natural.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Why we are gay, bisexual, asexual, or anything, for that matter, has no answer. Whether our sexual orientation is by nature or born with it has no significance whatsoever.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">All that matters the most is you accept yourself as to how you are and others as to how they are.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Does anybody have to know?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Of course not, if you don’t want to. You never have to tell anyone about your sexuality if you are uncomfortable with it or don’t want to.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Telling or not telling someone that you are not straight will make no difference to your sexual orientation. You don’t owe it to anyone.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">However, it is completely up to you if you wish to come out to your friends, family, and partner(s).</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Whom Should You Tell?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">As I mentioned in the above paragraph, coming out to someone is entirely your decision. The persons you can tell about your sexual orientations are the ones who, you are sure, are accepting and open-minded.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">They can be anyone- your close or distant family member, colleague, school friend(s), etc. You can speak with them in person. If you don’t feel comfortable talking in person, you can telephonically via email or text.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Understand that the person you come out to is accepting and can discuss your feelings with carefully.&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">How you can approach the topic with them:&nbsp;</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">1.&nbsp; You can begin by watching an LGBTQ+ movie with them or talking about a celebrity who identifies with LGBTQ+</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">2.&nbsp; “You are important to me, and I would like to tell you something. I have realised that I am bisexual.”&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">3.&nbsp; “After years of fighting, understanding, I have realised that I am gay. I would appreciate your support.”&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">4.&nbsp; “I am attracted towards women, and I would like your support.”&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">5.&nbsp; You can direct them to read an online article(s) guide(s).&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">What to do if coming out doesn’t go well?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">My personal experience wasn’t good. In my late teens, I had come out to my mother thinking that she would support me. But her conditioning, circumstances, and thinking made her believe that anything besides heterosexuality was a sin.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">It has happened to many of us. Sadly, who we think can support us the best turn out to be the ones to scar us emotionally.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Worse, they may laugh it off or take it as a joke. Some may dismiss it altogether. Some may, instead, convince you that it’s just a phase, or you’re straight only but confused.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">So, it may happen that people may not react the way we would want them to or we had expected them to. You can do the following things in case the coming out doesn’t go well:</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><strong>1.</strong>&nbsp; <strong>Surround yourself with people who get you:&nbsp;</strong></p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You can find such people online, social media groups, online forums, communities. Of course, your college or school friends, too, can be supportive of your sexuality. Your online friends can also help you.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><strong>2.&nbsp; Know that you are NOT the wrong one:&nbsp;</strong></p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Please know that having sexuality besides heterosexuality doesn’t make you different, abnormal, or wrong. There’s nothing wrong with being bisexual, gay, pansexual, or asexual. What is wrong is intolerance and being unsupportive.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><strong>3.&nbsp; Allow them and yourself some space:&nbsp;</strong></p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">I am in my late twenties, and my relationship with my mother has improved. It took her over a decade to come to terms with my sexuality. She listens to me, understands me, supports me in any way she can. Give them space to understand that their initial reaction could be better, and let them know that you would be willing to talk again.&nbsp;</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Winding Up&nbsp;</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The bottom line is that there are no particular signs you’re not straight. You may have been in relationships with the opposite sex and still be gay. The only things you need to understand are your feelings and that sexuality is not static. Coming to terms with your sexuality is how you can begin the process of understanding yourself better.&nbsp;</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">You are the one to identify yourself as who you are. In addition, you can find various <a href="https://www.cdc.gov/lgbthealth/youth-resources.htm">resource groups</a> online for a deeper insight into your sexual orientation.</p>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Preiksha Jain]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jan 2022 15:38:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[What is Sexuality? Before I explain different sexualities, let us understand what sexuality is. Sexuality is who you identify yourself as based upon your interests in romantic and/or sexual attractions and your preferences for romantic and/or sexual relationships.   Sexual orientation is similar to sexuality. Remember, sexuality is fluid; whom you are sexually or romantically attracted <a href="https://mindfulsome.com/different-types-of-sexualities-explained/" class="more-link">...</a>]]></description>
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<h1 class="wp-block-heading">What is Sexuality?</h1>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Before I explain different sexualities, let us understand what sexuality is. Sexuality is who you identify yourself as based upon your interests in romantic and/or sexual attractions and your preferences for romantic and/or sexual relationships.  </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sexual orientation is similar to sexuality. Remember, sexuality is fluid; whom you are sexually or romantically attracted to at the moment does not define your sexuality. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">People may understand who they are attracted to, both sexually and romantically, at an early age. But for some, this process may come to fruition over the years. However, people may experience more than one sexualities at different points in their lives. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">As a woman, you may be dating men and having sexual relations with them, but you may feel romantical and/or sexually attracted to a woman as well. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">This article will touch upon different types of sexualities/ sexual orientations. However, it may be noted that even if there are terms for your sexual or romantic attraction, sexuality or sexual orientation doesn’t always come under such definable categories. </p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">How is Sexuality different from Gender Identity?</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sexuality is who are you are sexually or romantically attracted to. Gender identity is who you identify yourself as to the world. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Gender identity describes one belonging to the male/ female/ transgender category. A person’s self-concept of gender, irrespective of their assigned biological sex at birth, is their gender identity. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Gender identity is who they prefer to be called- man/ woman/ non-binary/ transgender. Gender identity is <a href="https://time.com/magazine/us/4703292/march-27th-2017-vol-189-no-11-u-s/">beyond ‘he’ or ‘she</a>.’ Let’s not confuse an individual’s gender identity with sexuality.</p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Sexuality or sexual orientation is whom they like. For example, a person identifying themselves as male is not necessarily sexually, romantically, or emotionally attracted to females. That male could be attracted to anyone.</p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading"><strong>Different Types of Sexualities</strong> </h2>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Asexuality </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><a href="https://mindfulsome.com/what-it-means-to-be-asexual/">Asexuality</a> is the sexual orientation wherein the individuals do not experience sexual attraction to any person regardless of gender. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">However, asexual individuals may deeply feel romantically and emotionally attracted to a person of any gender. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Bisexuality </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Bisexuality is the sexual orientation wherein a person experiences sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attraction towards more than one gender. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Commonly referred to as &#8216;bi&#8217;, a bisexual individual feels sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards the same/similar gender and/or opposite gender. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Cupiosexuality</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">A cupiosexual individual refers to an asexual person who does not experience sexual attraction but desires to engage in sexual activity.  </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Demisexuality </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Demisexuality refers to the sexuality of the people who experience sexual attraction towards a person after experiencing romantic and/or emotional interest.  </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Gay </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Gay is referred to as the individuals who experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction toward a person of the same/similar gender as they are. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Some women experiencing sexual and romantic attraction towards women commonly refer to themselves as gay, whereas others prefer lesbian or queer. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">In the medical and psychological fields, the term Homosexual refers to a gay individual. However, &#8216;homosexual&#8217; has begun to be old-fashioned and offensive.</p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Heterosexual</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Heterosexual individual experiences sexual, romantic, and/or emotional attraction toward a person of the opposite sex. For instance, male vs female, man vs woman. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><a href="https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/gender-identity/transgender">Transgender</a> individuals can be heterosexual. The individuals identifying as heterosexual are commonly described as &#8216;straight&#8217;. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Homosexuality </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The term &#8216;homosexual,&#8217; viewed as outdated and offensive, is commonly used in medicine and psychology. The term refers to the individuals who experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards a person of the same or similar sex. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Lesbian</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">A woman experiencing sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards a same-sex person is a lesbian. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Some women may like to refer to themselves as gay/queer. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Omnisexual</h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Omnisexual individuals&#8217; sexual and/or romantic attraction is not limited to a person of one gender or sexual orientation. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">They may experience sexual, romantic, and emotional attraction towards the same/similar sex or the opposite sex. Omnisexual is similar to pansexual. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Pansexual </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Pansexual individuals can experience attraction (sexual or/and romantic/ towards a person of any gender, sex, and sexual orientation. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Queer </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">The term Queer in the acronym LGBTQIA+ is an umbrella term for all those individuals who are exclusively not heterosexuals. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">People who identify themselves as queer do not methodically fit into bisexual, gay, lesbian, or transgender. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">This term was looked down upon and frowned upon, hinting at its derogatory meaning. But with time, it has resurfaced as a socially acceptable term. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">However, some people still don&#8217;t like to identify themselves as queer despite the extensive use of the term. Therefore, &#8216;queer&#8217; should be used respectfully, considering the sensitivity of the term. </p>



<h3 class="wp-block-heading">Sapiosexual </h3>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Individuals identifying themselves as sapiosexuals are attracted to the other person&#8217;s intelligence. Gender, sexual orientation, and sex are no concern for sapiosexual individuals. </p>



<h2 class="wp-block-heading">Winding Up</h2>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Although we have understood the meanings of different sexualities here, identifying individuals worldwide with a particular sexual orientation can be complex. In other and familiar words, the process of <strong>coming out</strong> of the <strong>closet</strong> is/may be an emotional drive for them. </p>



<p class="wp-block-paragraph">All these labels may be overwhelming, and it&#8217;s okay to feel so. However, knowing these terms may encourage you to learn more about yourself and seek guidance per se. The importance of this knowledge lies in how you understand and identify yourself. This way, you can further reach out to the community while you are on the path of self-discovery and sexual exploration.  </p>

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